23, married, and doing just fine.
I’m back. For this post. To vent. I know, I know you missed me.
So you might have seen that post “23 things you should do instead of getting engaged at 23” floating about on Facebook. I know I did. And guess what? I’m 23, married, and I’m still doing many of those things. CRAZY I tell you.
Okay so yeah, we got married young. 22 and 23 isn’t ideal in this society. Gasp! We didn’t live together before marriage, we dated for ONLY 3 years before marriage, and oh my gosh.. we STILL don’t know who we really are, what we’re doing, or what we’ll be doing in the next year. But here’s the thing, we’re doing it together.We’re figuring out this crazy thing called life TOGETHER and side by side. I know it’s a crazy thought, but you really don’t need to go through life alone… and there’s nothing wrong with going through it with someone by your side.
Here’s the thing, you don’t need to have everything settled down before you’re married. We set our wedding date before we had jobs. We were very blessed and lucky to get jobs right out of college, but we still would’ve been married on May 4 whether or not both of us had those jobs. We have no idea who the heck we are. We’re 23 and 24! Goodness. Who really knows who they are until way later in life? Or ever for that matter?
I don’t feel like marriage is a “cop-out”. I’m not hiding behind my husband and I don’t think the world is too big or too scary to deal with alone. I’d like to think I’m a pretty independent person. I have my own friends, hang out with said friends without my husband, and come home to a smiling face asking how my day was. I didn’t throw away any of my friendships or dreams to get married. I have someone who encourages my dreams and has brought me new friendships.
And the argument about the divorce rates being so high for people who get married young? We live in a society that divorce is the norm. Issues? Let’s get a divorce. The crazy thing about marriage is it’s a SACRAMENT. That means, it lasts forever. Issues? We deal with them. Fights? Who doesn’t get in fights? At the end of the day, he’s the one I chose to be with the rest of my life. If we have issues down the road, we won’t turn to divorce. We made a life-long commitment. Apparently that’s too insane to think about.
You may think this is just dumb nonsense coming from a 23 year old newlywed still in her honeymoon phase. However, I’d like to think that marriage is more than just a cop-out or for people who are too scared to go through life themselves. I’d like to think it’s for people ready to take on life TOGETHER. Crazy, isn’t it?
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